What is the hardest part of deployment for families?
What can you expect when your loved one comes home after deployment?
In this podcast episode, Elizabeth Polinsky answers these questions and more when she discusses how to navigate reintegration after deployment.
IN THIS PODCAST
1. A Personal Story of Reintegration
The last time my husband returned home, I spent days feeling really excited that he was coming home; but I also felt anxious about whether our relationship would still be the same. When I went to pick him up from, I suddenly felt really angry--which took both of us by surprise. It took me a while to realize that I was angry because he had left in the first place even though my logical mind understood that he can't control when the military tells him to go somewhere. I mention this story because even when people think they are prepared for deployment and reintegration after deployment, there are often unexpected emotional reactions that happen.
What can go wrong will go wrong right when your partner leaves" -- Paraphrased from Elizabeth Polinsky
2. The Impact of Deployment
The less secure your relationship is going into the deployment...the deployment can amplify the feelings of insecurity in the relationship" -- Paraphrased from Elizabeth Polinsky
3. Stages of Reintegration after Deployment
The key to couple relationships is recognizing your emotional experience, processing your emotional experience, and sharing it with your partner...this is where I see most couple relationships breakdown." -- Elizabeth Polinsky
4. Things that Help with Reintegration After Deployment
In renegotiating roles and routines, try being open and honest about the finances and routines while offering for your service member to be included.
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Elizabeth Polinsky, MSW, LCSW, is a marriage and couple therapist specializing in working with military members, veterans, and their families. Liz is located in Norfolk, Virginia, and provides online counseling services throughout Virginia, South Carolina, and Arkansas. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Virginia (#0904011022), South Carolina (#11302), and Arkansas (#7735-C). She is also licensed as a Resident in Marriage and Family Therapy in Virginia (#0730000567) under the supervision of Marianne Coad, LPC, LMFT.
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