What makes relationships feel so good and so special? Have you wondered how to recreate those loving feelings you used to have with your partner?
In this podcast episode, Elizabeth Polinsky discusses how to reconnect with your partner.
IN THIS PODCAST
Connection is about feeling; a felt experience that my partner is there for me”.
According to the Gottman Institute, couples need a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. Couples headed toward divorce have an 0.8 to 1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. This means that negative interactions are significantly more impactful on relationships than the positive interaction. Therefore decreasing the negative interactions, while increasing the positive ones can help build relationship connection.
I can either add positivity or negativity to a relationship”.
The key to connection is a secure attachment bond with your partner.
You can have a healthy secure attachment bond to your significant other. When someone has this close connected relationship to their partner they feel like they have a home to go back to, it is their person.”
Secure attachment bonds lead to improved physical and mental health.
You want your spouse to be your primary support system and who you can go to for comfort.”
Most people experience blocks to connection that have developed as ways to cope with overwhelming emotions in relationships.
Kindness is the key to increasing positivity in your relationship.”
Increase the positives in your relationship--go do something nice with your partner that you know they will like.
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Thanks for Listening!
Elizabeth Polinsky, MSW, LCSW, is a marriage and couple therapist specializing in working with military members, veterans, and their families. Liz is located in Norfolk, Virginia, and provides online counseling services throughout Virginia, South Carolina, and Arkansas. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker Virginia (#0904011022), South Carolina (#11302), and Arkansas (#7735-C). She is also licensed as a Resident in Marriage and Family Therapy in Virginia (#0730000567) under the supervision of Dr. Victoria Holroyd at The Relationship Center at East Beach.
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The Communicate & Connect Podcast
Launching Sept. 2020
In Communicate & Connect For Military Relationships, I provide educational tips for relationships, communication, and navigating military family life.